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Being Transcendent (Geena Rocero)
June 1, 2023
- 1:02:30
“I believe certainly, I know now, after have going through this years and years of feeling ashamed of who I am, you know, internalizing...
How to Change the World (Austin Channing Brown)
May 25, 2023
- 55:23
“When you are quite literally told that you are not human. What option do you have? What’s the other option other than to overthrow the...
The Making of On Our Best Behavior (my editor, Whit Frick)
May 18, 2023
- 1:16:59
“If I remember correctly, I think you ran as fast as you could to the thing that you're more comfortable with, which is other people's...
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Being Transcendent (Geena Rocero)
June 1, 2023
- 1:02:30
“I believe certainly, I know now, after have going through this years and years of feeling ashamed of who I am, you know, internalizing...
How to Change the World (Austin Channing Brown)
May 25, 2023
- 55:23
“When you are quite literally told that you are not human. What option do you have? What’s the other option other than to overthrow the...
The Making of On Our Best Behavior (my editor, Whit Frick)
May 18, 2023
- 1:16:59
“If I remember correctly, I think you ran as fast as you could to the thing that you're more comfortable with, which is other people's...
What Makes Marriages Work (Stan Tatkin)
May 11, 2023
- 57:45
“One thing my work has taught me is how human interaction is a comedy of errors. People are making so many errors without knowing it. I...
The Best Strangers in the World (Ari Shapiro)
May 4, 2023
- 55:43
“But I now think about how wonderful it is that some of these radio stories that meant a lot to me that might have otherwise just...
Knitting Together our Lives (Peggy Orenstein)
April 27, 2023
- 49:04
“Women spent so much time in the ancient world spinning, like they spent all their time, any spare moment. And spinsters were not bad,...
A Fully Sensed Life (Gretchen Rubin)
April 20, 2023
- 52:38
“So one of the things I explored in life in Life in Five Senses was the value of boredom. Because when you're bored and when your mind...
Reconceiving Our Lives (Maggie Smith)
April 13, 2023
- 54:51
“For people who have been in a long relationship and then it goes off the rails and ends, it’s a different kind of grief from say...
Igniting Creativity (Ozan Varol)
April 6, 2023
- 54:36
“Ideas don't arrive with a bang. There is no parade. The big thing never screams that it's a big thing. The big thing actually at first...
Making Sense of Time (Jenny Odell)
March 30, 2023
- 49:44
“I guess for me the real tragedy is this idea of a life where you're getting further and further away from something meaningful or what...
A Mapmaker for the Soul (Cynthia Bourgeault)
March 23, 2023
- 58:18
“We are in a time where everything that we think we have taken for granted in terms of human achievement, human conscience, human...
The Origins of Inequality (Angela Saini)
March 16, 2023
- 1:00:02
“People have always fought against anyone trying to impose power on them or trying to assert their status on them. That is true right...
Falling in Love With the World (Katherine May)
March 9, 2023
- 58:24
“When I'd gone off and got lost in the woods and I walked for hours and I just couldn't find my way back out of the woods, there was...
Self-Healing In The Dark (Tara Schuster)
March 2, 2023
- 50:21
“And we are made of stars, you know. It's not some fun little thing I'm trying to make everyone feel happy with. It's the carbon in your...
Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships (Nedra Tawwab)
February 23, 2023
- 47:37
“I think the biggest challenge with codependency is, when a family member is catered to when their unhealthy or toxic behavior is...
The Friendships We Need (Will Schwalbe)
February 16, 2023
- 53:57
“A conversation that I hope this book sparks, because it's such a fun conversation, is the conversation about like, gay men being...
Learning to See Our Parents as They Are (Priscilla Gilman)
February 9, 2023
- 58:56
“And the moment when she admitted that she had been wrong, that was the greatest healing moment for me of all. And that would never have...
What We’re After (Solo Episode)
February 2, 2023
- 48:42
In today’s episode—my first ever solo attempt—I explain how my spirituality emerged out of a largely secular, nature-based childhood,...
Understanding Spiritual Power (Carissa Schumacher)
January 26, 2023
- 1:46:34
“This is the time where it's kind of like the things that we didn't get right. We need to start fixing. Not fixing, I would say, but...
It Begins and Ends with Breath (James Nestor)
January 19, 2023
- 50:51
“Look at how we've convoluted and complicated. The most simple things. Look at nutrition now. How many supplements are we supposed to...
In Search of Paradise (Pico Iyer)
January 12, 2023
- 57:43
“There are many places I'd love to see and I know I would learn from. But if I never see them, I won't be sorry. I mean I feel I'm so...
Working with the Power of Earth (Llewellyn Vaughan-Lee, PhD)
January 5, 2023
- 1:05:39
“We're aware that we're in an ecological crisis. We are destroying our own ecosystem. We're aware there's loss of biodiversity, these...
Where Self Meets World (Dan Siegel, M.D.)
December 29, 2022
- 58:24
“How do we actually with due speed, cuz this is a timely issue, start to live in modern culture, which is taken over the planet....
The Kitchen Healer (Jules Blaine Davis)
December 22, 2022
- 1:02:21
“I mean, nourishing is truly, honestly, it is, it is, uh, an activism. It is it, the, the minute you are nourished the decisions you...
Processing Our Collective Past (Thomas Hübl)
December 15, 2022
- 56:09
“If you don't change things that we already feel we should change or we feel called to change, if you're holding onto our job alone or...
On Collaborating With Ourselves (Alexandra Grant)
December 8, 2022
- 55:55
“Now I'm making something that I didn't imagine. It's not going like I imagined, but it's going. And then when you finish the Object...
Living a Committed Life (Lynne Twist)
December 1, 2022
- 54:55
“But a life devoted to something larger than yourself is a life worth living. It's a life that is in recognition of life is given to us,...
The Boundaries We Need (Melissa Urban)
November 23, 2022
- 1:01:17
“Boundaries don't tell other people what to do. They tell other people what you are willing to do to take responsibility for your own...
The Closet of Inauthenticity (Jessi Hempel)
November 17, 2022
- 44:59
“My childhood was a childhood in the closet. I had some good things. I had some bad things, like living in the closet is, you know, not...
Recovering Every Part of Ourselves (Richard Schwartz, PhD)
November 10, 2022
- 57:47
“I’m trying to map the territory in the center world, just the way I did with families and the distinction that immediately leaped out...
Decolonizing Wellness (Chelsey Luger & Thosh Collins)
November 3, 2022
- 1:06:60
"We have offered a model, the seven circles, that helps people to understand that it's not just food and fitness, which so many wellness...
The Power of Visual Thinkers (Temple Grandin, PhD)
October 27, 2022
- 1:02:05
“The thing is the type of thinking where you can figure out how mechanical things work. It’s a different kind of intelligence. And I...
Being a Good Enough Person (Dolly Chugh)
October 20, 2022
- 51:41
“What I'm positing is, is an ability to grapple with contradiction. So that's the paradox mindset that Wendy Smith, Maryanne Lewis and...
When Women Lead (Julia Boorstin)
October 13, 2022
- 56:48
“But my other favorite thing about the confidence piece, as someone who can be very anxious and nervous myself, is that sometimes it's...
A Map to Your Soul (Jennifer Freed, PhD)
October 6, 2022
- 1:01:09
“Well, I think of it like the metaphor of the ensemble in a great musical, like everybody has to know their part. Everybody has to give...
What Makes Love Last (John & Julie Gottman, PhDs)
September 29, 2022
- 56:20
“I’ve never really figured out how come we stop asking each other questions. You know, we always do that in the beginning of a...
Embracing Uncertainty (Estelle Frankel)
September 22, 2022
- 52:22
“Sometimes you can't see the full path. And so you don't even venture into the unknown, you know, you're unhappy, you know, you need to...
When Stress Becomes Illness (Gabor Maté, M.D.)
September 15, 2022
- 1:05:33
“Where in your life where you're not saying yes, but there's a, yes. That wants to be said where there's some desire for self expression...
What Makes Us Whole (Susan Cain)
September 8, 2022
- 55:49
“I think we all have these stories, you know, whether they come through bereavements or betrayals or, or whatever, we, we all have these...
The Fallacy of Time Management (Oliver Burkeman)
September 1, 2022
- 53:04
“There seems to be this basic idea that if you make a system including a human life, more efficient, capable of processing, more inputs...
Touching the Other Side (Laura Lynne Jackson)
August 25, 2022
- 1:02:05
“What I know is that no one is alone. There's no sense of isolation or sadness or disconnection that I think at times we mistakenly feel...
The Power of Myth to Heal (Kwame Scruggs, PhD)
August 18, 2022
- 51:38
“I tear up at the drop of a hand and got another facilitator who tears up quicker than I do. Uh, but like we tell the youth, the soul...
Overriding Implicit Bias (Jessica Nordell)
August 11, 2022
- 53:13
“I mean, the idea that we're colorblind or, or gender blind or age blind or something, is ridiculous. I mean, we categorize those things...
The Power of the Enneagram (Susan Olesek)
August 4, 2022
- 52:53
“And I just feel that people, I now I have so much more perspective, but at the time, even I felt people who have already had so much...
Navigating Quarterlife (Satya Doyle Byock)
July 28, 2022
- 51:20
“The focus of adulthood has been on stability, just, you know, find a job and don't leave it, find a partner and don't get divorced,...
Understanding the Intelligence of the Universe (Jeddah Mali)
July 21, 2022
- 53:22
“So natural intelligence has this ability to bring order when we allow it to. The reason that we don't see it so often in operation in...
The Mystery of Spontaneous Healing (Jeffrey Rediger, M.D., M.Div)
July 14, 2022
- 47:35
“If you don't know how to say no, your body will eventually say no for you. I think there is so much depth to that. Mm-hmm and that's...
Introducing History is US
July 11, 2022
- 03:49
Written and narrated by award-winning author and Professor of African American Studies at Princeton University, Dr. Eddie S. Glaude,...
The Map of Loss (Mary-Frances O’Connor, PhD)
July 7, 2022
- 42:59
“I think I find great comfort in this idea that when you form that bond, when you fall in love, your neurons are actually changed the...
The Power of Boundaries (Nedra Tawwab)
June 30, 2022
- 50:24
“As a therapist, I started to discover that when people need boundaries, they start to have issues around anxiety in their...
Finding the Mother Tree (Suzanne Simard)
June 23, 2022
- 52:09
“As scientists, we often look at one thing and we say, oh, that's the one thing it's competing for light. And then, and that's true....
Don’t Wait to Live (Rabbi Steve Leder)
June 16, 2022
- 57:46
“There are 12 questions that enable every person who's willing to, to answer them, to reevaluate their life and their legacy. Because...
Finding the Sacred Pause (Jennifer Rudolph Walsh)
June 9, 2022
- 47:05
“I didn't wanna be still, I had to be still, but I, I, I wanted more than anything to continue being a human doing. And the universe was...
Bringing Our “Wise Adults” into Relationship (Terry Real)
June 2, 2022
- 53:03
“I talk about dysfunctional relational stances that would repeat over and over again. For example, angry pursuit is an oxymoron. Angry...
From A Slight Change of Plans: "I Don't Feel Like a Boy, I Am a Boy"
June 1, 2022
- 14:21
I'm sharing a special preview of A Slight Change of Plans, a podcast all about who we are and who we become in the face of change. Dr....
The Beauty of Aging (Nigma Talib, N.D.)
May 26, 2022
- 48:28
“I think the key is to really believe it when you see something that you're doing every day in your diet that is making your hormones...
Why Do We Suffer? (Carissa Schumacher)
May 19, 2022
- 1:06:01
"If you are in a Western life and, and are designed as an empath or a spiritual being that feels things very deeply, it is important for...
Understanding Essential Labor (Angela Garbes)
May 12, 2022
- 54:50
"This to me is basic, but it feels like we've drifted really far from it in our culture. That to be a human, the basic condition of...
Understanding Emotional Inheritance (Galit Atlas, PhD)
May 5, 2022
- 59:20
"When we talk about the ghost of the unsaid, we're talking about the inherited feelings of our parents, unprocessed trauma, where the...
Where Are Our Huddles? (Brooke Baldwin)
April 28, 2022
- 1:01:32
"I talk to so many women who, you know, we talk about huddle and we talk about, I referenced, you know, back catalog friends, people who...
When Illness is Not Validated (Meghan O’Rourke)
April 21, 2022
- 43:34
“One reason I wrote the book is that the lack of recognition is such a powerful harm done to patients. And I think until you've gone...
Navigating Conflict (Amanda Ripley)
April 14, 2022
- 54:18
“Usually in high conflict, the conflict becomes the whole point. So you make a lot of mistakes and you can miss opportunities that would...
Living Without Lying (Martha Beck, PhD)
April 7, 2022
- 1:00:10
“I’ve won arm wrestles with big muscular men, right out of prison because you align the energy. Everything wants to harmonize with it...
Why Closure is a Myth (Pauline Boss, PhD)
March 31, 2022
- 55:26
You have to have something new to hope for sure. You might still keep hoping that somebody with a terminal illness might get better and...
Having Conversations We’d Rather Avoid (Celeste Headlee)
March 24, 2022
- 49:53
"So if we take that off the table, if we take off this, this goal of changing somebody's mind, then what are you left with? What's...
Passing as “Normal” (Katherine May)
March 17, 2022
- 52:36
“I increasingly feel that modern life is becoming intolerable for everyone, whether they're neurodivergent or not. I think we've noticed...
What Our Anxiety Tells Us (Ellen Vora, M.D.)
March 10, 2022
- 49:45
“I think we're due for a cultural rebranding around crying. I think that crying, you know, if we start to cry, we inevitably apologize...
Manifesting What We Actually Want (Lacy Phillips)
March 3, 2022
- 52:55
"When I would witness somebody that I identify with in whatever capacity of what I'm calling in, have, what I want or are successful in...
Why Design Matters—and the Courage to Create New (Debbie Millman)
February 24, 2022
- 54:52
I think what makes it much more difficult to, to have the courage, to continue to experiment, you know, look at somebody like Joni...
The Psychology of the Body (Olivia Laing)
February 17, 2022
- 43:12
That's what I think is so funny about this is like a hundred years on these things that he's talking about remain as live as ever as...
How Science Got Women Wrong (Angela Saini)
February 10, 2022
- 48:43
“But what I do do is whenever I read an academic paper is I read around it. I don't just take that as given or assume that that's, you...
Understanding Our Sexual Potential (Ian Kerner, Ph.D)
February 3, 2022
- 47:40
“We sort of get into this, you know, relational model. And look, when it's working, when sex is a form of intimacy and merging and...
Finding Balance in Our Bodies (Aviva Romm, M.D.)
January 27, 2022
- 55:14
“I've spent many years, like med school residency, as a mom, eight books, which is a lot of deadlines. Just a lot of things that have...
Challenging the Stories We Tell Ourselves (Elizabeth Lesser)
January 20, 2022
- 53:24
Today’s guest is Elizabeth Lesser, bestselling author of classics like Broken Open, and co-founder of the Omega Institute, an...
Unblocking the Creative Self (Julia Cameron)
January 13, 2022
- 50:06
“Are you doing something that brings you joy? Are you doing something that brings you fulfillment? Do you take yourself seriously when...
The Guru in Our Own Minds (Mark Epstein, M.D.)
January 6, 2022
- 52:44
“But the true guru, you know, the Buddha came and turned all that inside out. You know the Buddha taught the Four Noble Truths and the...
Struggle is Real—Suffering is Optional (BJ Miller, M.D.)
December 30, 2021
- 48:43
“My goal isn't to not be afraid, my goal is to have a relationship with fear. So I presume fear is going to be part of the picture. So...
Where Should Work Fit in Our Lives (Anne Helen Petersen & Charlie Warzel)
December 23, 2021
- 52:24
“Like family relationship has obligations that go both ways. Hopefully there's unconditional love there, but it's also the, like your re...
Why Don’t We Believe Women? (Deborah Tuerkheimer)
December 16, 2021
- 44:28
“Outside the legal context, I'm urging readers and listeners in this case to think very deliberately about whether that high standard of...
The Reprioritization of Relationship (Lori Gottlieb)
December 9, 2021
- 49:48
“I think what COVID did was it really made people realize that the state of their emotions, the state of their relationships, all of...
Solving the American Gun Crisis (Ryan Busse)
December 2, 2021
- 54:08
“The NRA and gun owners then signified, you know, the sort of comradery, responsibility, safety, sort of a bygone, I don't know, sort of...
My Spiritual Teacher & Yeshua Channel (Carissa Schumacher)
November 24, 2021
- 1:26:05
Since she was a little girl, Carissa Schumacher has always seen and spoken to dead people. She pushed all of that aside, went to Brown...
How to End Zero-Sum Thinking (Heather McGhee)
November 18, 2021
- 57:50
Heather McGhee is a designer of, and advocate for, solutions to inequality in America. We discuss her New York Times bestselling book,...
Navigating an Addictive Culture (Anna Lembke, M.D.)
November 11, 2021
- 42:53
“We are living in a world that primes us all for the problem of addiction. So even though some people come into this world more...
What Our Anger Teaches Us (Harriet Lerner, Ph.D)
November 4, 2021
- 57:06
“I think it's very important to mention also, Elise, that even if a woman feels permission to be angry, that anger is such a tricky...
Where Did the Patriarchy Come From? (Riane Eisler, PhD)
October 28, 2021
- 53:11
Our guest today is Dr. Riane Eisler, social systems scientist, cultural historian, futurist, attorney and internationally bestselling...
Healing Male Depression (Terry Real)
October 21, 2021
- 54:31
“Before our boys have learned to read, they have already read the stoic code of masculinity and are conforming to it.” says Terry Real,...
Women, Food & Hormones (Sara Gottfried, M.D.)
October 14, 2021
- 59:49
Our guest today is Dr. Sara Gottfried - a Harvard educated doctor, scientist, researcher, mother, and seeker with 25 years of experience...
The Legacy of White Feminism (Kyla Schuller)
October 7, 2021
- 1:01:19
“There's a fantasy in argument, in Lean In, or Girlboss style corporate feminism that says, once you have women in charge of your...
Finding the Line Between Savoring and Saving (Jamie Wheal)
September 30, 2021
- 1:02:46
Jamie Wheal is the founder of the Flow Genome Project, a organization dedicated to the research and training of human performance, and...
Calling In the Call-Out Culture (Loretta Ross)
September 23, 2021
- 52:08
“Do you want to continue to live out the patterns of your childhood? Or do you want to make different choices? Are you programmed or are...
Building the House of Knowledge (Joy Harjo)
September 16, 2021
- 50:21
“Humanity is messy, each of us starts with ourselves, it's horribly messy and then multiply that times millions. And that's an...
Introducing: Pulling the Thread
August 30, 2021
- 03:46
45-minute conversations and investigations with today's leading thinkers, authors, experts, doctors, healers, scientists about life's...